~~The Gayla Pink Apple~~
All throughout my daughter's young life, I'd witness friends fret and fuss about the need to adjust their holiday gatherings for their adult children. Usually due to adult children getting married and having to split their time between families, etc.
I've experienced my own share of dilemma making decisions at holidays and where to go, especially during the early years of married life. I recall one year, my husband and I could not agree so, we each went to our respective parents' for Thanksgiving. I don't recommend it - not a good idea - but, I did it once, indeed.
I vowed, when my daughter was an adult, I'd adjust without fuss and complaint. I'm not faced with it due to marriage. However, this year, I am faced with it due to location. Blair lives in Manhattan, working full time, and continuing her studies. She is unable to travel home for the holidays this year. So, time for me to adjust and walk the walk that I've talked for years.
No big deal, I'll go to her! That's exactly what I did and I feel lucky to be here. My husband put our daughter before himself - he didn't want her to be alone in NYC on Thanksgiving - even if that meant he was home without us. He wasn't able to travel and join us this time, but insisted I go be with Blair. A very selfless decision.
I pre-ordered a Thanksgiving meal for Blair and me. The typical turkey dinner came with "typical New England stuffing." No big deal, though - I ordered a side of cornbread dressing. We Southern girls need cornbread dressing not New England stuffing!
Blair works tomorrow night (Thanksgiving) so tonight was our Thanksgiving meal. Turkey and dressing / stuffing, along with a pumpkin dessert, which, by the way, traveled in my checked bag from LR to NYC! Last, but not least, a little glass of bubbly! A big difference from my usual formal holiday dining table set with my beautiful dishes, silver candlesticks, serving pieces, and fresh flowers. Suck it up, Gayla, that's not what really matters. Don't get me wrong - it matters to me - just not as much as Blair.
And, I'm thinking tomorrow night when she gets home from work, a little after midnight, we will enjoy a little something to finish off our Thanksgiving. Most likely left-overs, a little pumpkin goodness, another glass of bubbly or cup of coffee, and probably a call home - facetime - skype - with her Dad.
Happy Thanksgiving to all!
Cheers from the Big Apple,
Gayla
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